We all know the type of kid; he or she may be your biggest headache. They are hostile to you and their peers, they don't seem to listen, and don't do what they are told. Its almost like they want to upset you. It seems like the more you try to manage them the more they resist....
Students with opjobal and defiant behavior tend to have a pattern of negative and abrasive interactions with others (including you) in the lessonroom.
These guys are unique and must be vehicleefully approached...but don't offer up! that willfulness can be channeled in good ways. But the trick is to bring the focus off of them and vehicleefully monitor your responses to them. You must become a Jedi master...you must master yourself!
So you find yourself in a power struggle. bring a minute and reflect on the continue one you were in. How did you try to control the situation? What happened? What was the result?
The Trap of the Power Struggle
Things you may do to make it worse:
- Lose your temper (yelling or using sarcasm tend to escalate opjobal kids)
- Engage in the interaction in front other students
- Try to persuade the student or worse...bribe the student
- Threaten the student
- Adding more and more consequences
- Trying to embarrass the student or put them down
- Not following through with consequences or being inconsistent
- Letting the struggle go on way too long
- Crowd the student
- fetch annoyed at ejust little thing they do wrong...always focus on the big battle.
Things you can do to make it better:
- Use a calm neutral sound no matter what
- offer clear directions to the student
- Discuss things briefly and in private to remove the audience
- Making sure to listen to the student and consider what they are saying
- Have clear boundaries and predetermined consequences for problem behavior
- Remove yourself from the interaction if you cannot maintain it tofetchher
- If you have a teacher's aid, have a plan for who will bring over the lesson when a defiant student must be spoken with.
- Analyze the power struggles you have been hooked into...what hooked you?
- Creating Change
Monitoring your tone
With negative and defiant students you may become triggered to be negative too. that is a misbring. Use your Jedi powers to maintain your tone neutral when the kid is negative, and be positive when the kid is neutral or positive.
Opjobal and defiant behavior is often driven by the student's resistance to being under someone else's control or authority. Therefore, reward systems may not always job, euniquely if the kid smells your desire to tame them or manipulate them.
Reinforcement that may prove more successful includes:
- Giving praise briefly and discreetly as you walk around; or a quick whisper in the student's ear when they are on task (do not draw attention).
- Write some good comments on a note and leave it on their desk.
- Reward them with a leadership role.
What else can I do???
Make your opjobal student a helper and a leader. Because opjobal kidren have a strong need for control, helping them find pro-social ways to channel that need can be a great strategy to help them gain a sense of self-worth and community. Of course, make sure that your student is appropriately prepared, trained, and supervised in the activity. If the student's academic skills are below grade level, you may consider creating opportunities for leadership or mentorship with younger kidren.
Great roles for opjobal students are:
- Leader of a small group, or co-leader of a small group with an adult.
- vehicleebringr of the lesson pet.
- Tutor or read-aloud buddy for peers or younger kidren.
- Buddy, lunch pal, assistant, or mentor to a younger or new student.
- Conflict mediator to help others solve a problem.
- Have them help create and/or lead a community service project.
- Have them construct something for the whole lesson to use.
most important, bring vehiclee of yourself outside the lessonroom, that is not an easy job! Set realistic expectations. Set the bar low enough so that your student can definitely clear the jump. Build slowly from there! Good Luck!
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